New Moon and Partial Solar Eclipse in Aquarius

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Greetings beloveds,

January’s full moon in Leo was tough. The moon came in tearing down what you thought could have been and bringing you to what really is. Now you are being called to be love and whole. In a month where our focus is drawn to romantic love due to a capitalist push for consumption, examining our relationship towards the self and universal love calls us to look beyond the surface of hearts, chocolate, and cards. Here’s a quick heart chakra meditation to help you with that.

There’s a game called The Labyrinth. In that game there is a wooden box with a cover that can be tilted with holes and walls on it. You have a silver ball that you place at the start and then through tilting the cover you attempt to move the ball to the finish. The walls assist you in avoiding the holes. It takes time and patience to reach the end because this is a game of balance.

Labyrinth is an excellent metaphor for the energy of the February new moon in Aquarius. Now is a time to find a quiet space and come back to self. It is difficult to take things slow when you are ready to move forward. When you can see the finish line but you have to make so many moves to get there. There are no short cuts. There’s no cheating. Just doing the work, taking your time, and having faith that you are on the right path.

This new moon go with the flow loves, you’ve got this.



28 Days of Love: The Psychology of Love

Greetings beloveds,

We’ve talked a bit about how the physical structures of the brain and our thoughts.  Now let’s take a look at our psychology. Psychology is the study of the mind. Thus, understanding how we work as humans can only improve our ability to connect with our self and others. I have always been fascinated with human behavior and how we explain/understand the world. To my younger self experiencing all the many different personality types was the most appealing part of interacting with other. Then to think that you could spend enough time with people to begin to predict and control their behavior?!? It was all too much for my little brain to handle so I dove into old psychology texts devouring the different theoretical frameworks that predominate the psychological world. From clinical, social psych, child development, personality, bio-psych, statistics to so many other areas it seems like every thought and behavior that humans have had (and even some animals) has been studied. Love as a feeling, experience, and biological response has of course been one of the hot topics within psychology with it’s various specialty areas in Human Sexuality or Marriage and Family.

The Myers & Briggs Personality Test

The Enneagram

The True Colors Personality Test

Here are some of the most popular personality tests out there for you to explore if you haven’t already. These tests attempt to categorize people into types in order to assist you and the psychologist in figuring out quickly how you relate to others and yourself. Personality tests are a fun and sometimes useful way to see how compatible you and another person might be. Of course these tests are very generalized and rarely capture the entirety of the human soul/being so they are a starting point at best. But it is better to have a place to start then to not even be in the arena. When it comes to relationships in particular, The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman is one of my favorite go to’s for a simple explanation of understanding what one’s needs are and how to express this to your partner, family, friends, and colleagues. Check these various tests out and let me know what you think. Did you find yourself reading up on other personality types and love languages? Did you recognize these types in the people in your life?


Before we go let’s talk mental health. Taking time to focus on our mental health should be of the same importance as taking care of your physical health. You are mindful of your eating, movement, emotions and thoughts but when your feelings and thoughts are in conflict, do you feel comfortable seeking mental health services as you would with your diet or exercise? It would be wise to do so, as all of our being is connected. One area not functioning at it’s best will affect all the other areas as well.



28 Days of Love: The Physiology of the Mind

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I hope that the exercises and information that has been shared about how our thoughts affect our reality have been useful for you. Changing the way we think effects the energy we attract and in turn the types of relationships that we will have with ourselves and others. Yet it is also important to understand how the brain works so for today we have  a bit of homework to do.

I’ve compiled this quick list of links to sites that cover the physiology and functions of the brain.

Web MD- Brain Human Anatomy

Inner Body- Human Brain and Nervous System

Brain HQ – The Brain in Love

Harvard Mahoney Neuroscience Institute – Love and the Brain 

Now that we have an idea of how the brain works and how it interacts with what we have come to recognize as love some of your behaviors and patterns in relating to others may make more sense. Overall, how we relate to others depends on how we have been trained and what we have found works  (or at least we justify that it should work) to get us the results we desire.

If you haven’t already test it out. Take note of how you feel when you are around a person, animal, or thing that you love. Then note how you feel when you eat certain foods such as chocolate or others that personally for you have positive associations. Do you find that you are experiencing similar feelings in both situations? Take notes and let me know what you find out.

With love as always,


28 Days of Love: The Power of Focus

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Greetings beloveds,

Now that we’ve covered ways to clear our mind now we can begin to direct our thoughts towards sending energy towards creating the life we desire. We’ve all heard of the law of attraction which states that what appears in our life depends on the energy we put out whether we are aware of it or not. Things get sticky when it comes to this conversation because who would put out an energy to attract pain, abuse, or fear? What about the children who are hurt? How could they have put out an energy to attract that? The choice to harm another comes solely from the perpetrator never from the one receiving the abuse. We live in a world of co-creation with a lot of wonky lingering energy. This energy has been around for so long we are often unaware of its presence and thus are unable to direct ourselves away from it. This is why it is important to take time to become aware of your thoughts and clear out space to evaluate whether they are thoughts, experiences, and energy that you would like to have in your life. If not then work must be done to let those thoughts go.

Now we have some space to grow, to create. What are your dreams? What do you want your world to look like? This space is calling for you to put forth what you would like your world to include yet often we are so busy living our lives and caring for others we let the same energy come right back into our consciousness. Using tools such as a mind map or a vision board can help you find clarity. Once you have an idea of what you desire it is then time to turn your attention towards those desires. Find images, draw, sing, dance, create affirmations, do whatever you can to bring your attention towards that which you desire.

It is important though to use that heart connection to assess whether your focus is on your lack of what you desire or on the feelings on joy and anticipation of receiving your desire. If it’s coming from a spirit of lack time to go general. Find whatever brings you joy and focus on that. For me, it’s Bob’s Burgers the cartoon. This show makes me laugh no matter what is going on in my life. It immediately makes me smile and feel happy. What’s your Bob’s Burgers? Find it and use that as a springboard to get to that feel good space where you ready to turn your attention towards your desires. Then if you feel that edge of “but I don’t have it”, “it’s hard to get this”, “I can’t wait for it to be here” that’s your signal to move your attention to that joy button and get back in that space of attracting what you want and not what you don’t.

If you’re a bit skeptical of whether you have the ability to not only influence but create your life here’s a little experiment that you can do. Pick your favorite color, dessert, book, or item and spend 5-10 minutes of your meditation time on that thing. See yourself eating, reading, or with your favorite thing. Picture how happy you are when you have it. If it’s difficult to use visualization then perhaps turn this into a song, write about it, or paint it. Just find something to use to focus your energy on that thing. Know that you have it. Do this for 5-7 days and then release it. In time it will come to you most likely in a way that you didn’t expect.

Have fun dreaming and creating loves!


28 Days of Love: Clearing the Mind

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Sometimes we just need to take a mental break. We are constantly being bombarded with information from everywhere as energy is constantly moving and aligning with us. As such our sensory organs (eyes, nose, skin, mouth, ears) are taking it all in and it’s up to our brain to sort through it all. Our brain that ends up doing the grunt work. It’s kind of like the goffer of the office. Running here and there to take care of all the needs of the body and soul while also ANTICIPATING what may come in order to be prepared.

So much stimulation though can lead to us feeling overwhelmed and overworked. This is that time when the thoughts are running through our mind so quickly of things we need to do, stuff happening in the current moment, and all the things that have previously occurred. We get to the point where we may begin to drop the ball or we are going 90 miles an hour to get everything complete, never really giving anything our full attention. When our minds are moving so quickly it makes it difficult for us to make the best decisions because of our inability to fully consider the issue because we are so distracted. So many areas of our lives may suffer due to our trying to handle too at one time.

Here are some signs that it you may have gotten to that point:

  • Disrupted Sleep Patterns or Diminishing Sleep
  • To-do lists that are never completed AND their incompletion is stressful to                              you
  • You can’t recall the last time you took a “me” day or even a “me” moment
  • The most important sign is that there are activities that you have found that feed your soul which you find yourself no longer participating in NOT by choice*

If you find that any of these apply to you it might be time to figure out how to give your mind a break to give your best to yourself and everything that you do. I was at this point 2 years ago. I had started my first “adult” job while completing my thesis and comps for an additional degree. I went from writing 6 hours a day on my own schedule to trying to rearrange my life into the 8-5 lifestyle while still needing to write. Needless to say it started with my diet. I found myself not feeling like I had the time or drive to fix fresh meals like I did before. So I started eating out more and more. Then the physical activity began to diminish as I found that the time I would spend working out, spending time outside, or doing yoga now needed to be spent at work because of the more rigid schedule. Eventually I had stopped doing many of the things that kept me balanced and feeling my best. I had to make a change.

My source of change came from the completion of my degree first which provided me with more time. After that I had the opportunity to put my energy towards figuring out what I needed in order to feel my best while still meeting the requirements of my job. This meant putting my spirituality, physical health, and diet on the same level of importance as my external obligations. For you, this could mean that you take a vacation, staycation, read a book, watch a movie, or take a walk outside. I found that a morning routine that included meditation became a priority even if it was only for 10 minutes. It may seem easier to become overwhelmed than it is to take a break due to society’s glorification of busy which often happens simultaneously with shaming visible inactivity. But the trade off is worth it. So here’s some ideas of how to clear your mind so we can start the process of giving our brain some love and attention.

  1. Meditation
  2. Mindfulness
    1. Working on a puzzle, reading a book, coloring, painting, knitting, crafting, cooking, eating, journaling etc.
  3. Movement
    1. Yoga, tai chi, dance, running, walking, swimming, stretching
  4. Mini Me Moments
    1. Set aside 5, 10, 15, or however long you can to take part in one of the above suggestions. This time that you take for you can have a profound effect on your sense of balance and ability to achieve your goals/intentions.



28 Days of Love Week 2: Cognitive Love

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Greetings beloveds,

Welcome to week 2 where we will begin to exercise the largest muscle in our bodies, the brain. The decisions that we make, the thoughts that we have, our perception of the world, every bit of our being exists and is affected by our mind. So it is important to understand how the mind functions and the physical structure of the brain for the purposes of living our best possible life.

What connection does love have to our mind and brain? Well it’s been said that love occurs in the brain. Biologically, it is an interpretation of chemical compounds sent racing throughout the brain which effects not only our mood but how we come to relate to others, ourselves, and almost everything around us. Yet, love is experienced as so much more than just chemicals in the brain. The Greek language had 4 distinct types of love, Sanskrit 96 and yet love is expressed as one word in English with several different associations. There’s romantic, platonic, family, love of objects, animals, nature, or food.

I hope that as we look at the mind, our thought processes, and the brain this week in relation to love that you are able to find ways to not only better understand this phenomenon known as love but understand yourself as well.

Check back in tomorrow as we look ways to clear your mind bring about order and improve your relationships.


Goddesses of Life and Death: Pele and Relationship to Inner Divine Feminine

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Greetings beloveds,

Today in my work with Madame Pele I explored what her stories which included her sisters could reveal about the relationship between the self and our inner divine feminine. There are several tales of Madame Pele with her siblings but here are few shared from Robert’s Hawaii which you can visit here.

One common legend says that Pele – who was born in Honua-Mea in Tahiti — was sent away by her father because of her difficult temper and for seducing her sister, Namakaokahai’s, husband. She found her way to the Hawaiian Islands where legend after legend bubbled up around her countless lovers, infidelities and feuds and heated outbursts.

Another well-known story spins a web that Pele’s older brother Kamohoalii (the king of sharks) provided Pele with a large canoe which she and her brothers took and sailed away with – eventually coming to Hawaii. When she made landfall in the islands it was on Kauai, where she was attacked by her sister Namakaokahai and left for dead. According to legend she was able to recover and escaped to Oahu where she dug fire pits, including the crater today called Diamond Head. She traveled through the island chain to Molokai and on to Maui where she is said to have made Haleakala volcano.

Upon discovering Pele had survived, Namakaokahai traveled to Maui and the two engaged in an epic battle near Hana, where Pele was torn apart by her sister and became a god, finding a home on Mauna Kea on Hawaii Island. There she dug her final fire pit, the Halemaumau Crater at the summit of Kilauea, where many believe she resides to this day.

As shown here, Pele appears first as a gifted mortal among a family of powerful beings. She initially is sent away from home for her temper and seduction of her sisters husband. Having relations with a sister’s husband is a narrative taken up by many of our Life and Death Goddesses including Inanna and Isis. In Isis’s case, her sister Nephthys slept with Osiris birthing Anubis. Madame Pele is not described as the gentle, kind, submissive feminine. She expresses herself in a way through which there can be no misinterpretation. She takes what she desires even when that action may be judged.

sunsetMadame Pele then makes her way to Hawaii with several tales that express how that came about. Following her journey from her place of birth to a new land where she creates her own home. Madame Pele, must move beyond the restrictions of her home to a place where she is able to express her sovereignty. Just as we are often forced out of our comfort zones whether that be a home, job, relationship or view of ourself, Madame Pele finds herself in a new world with endless possibilities.

Madame Pele is the unapologetic woman who embraces her sexuality, her drive towards greatness, her need to protect those that she cherishes, and unwillingness to take mess from anyone. She stands up for herself, challenging our dual natures. Right and wrong are not clear or even important. It is the JOURNEY that matters. Madame Pele reflects our boss witch self. She knows her worth and her power…which leads to her downfall. But it is not defeat, it is the transition of life necessary to take her role as a God. This is Madame Pele’s journey to the underworld. Upon her death she becomes the sovereign of the land. Through Madame Pele life is given and life is taken away. She sacrifices her first form as a mortal to become an archetype of the fierce feminine.

Madame Pele is the our inner self who gives no fucks. She lives her life as she pleases giving just as much as she takes. When I connect to the energy of Madame Pele, I feel this bubbling up of energy. It is like a warm liquid fire (lava anyone) that feels fluid and yet stable. I can be petty at times and what would be described as selfish. I am prioritizing my own happiness and health regardless of what others want from me. This has brought a lot of conflict into my life. But honestly, I don’t care. Most of the folks who I am having conflicts with I would rather not be around anyone. I do not fear them even if they have the power to destroy my reputation or how others view me. It is not about them, it is about chasing my dreams. Madame Pele didn’t just chase her dreams, she actualized them.

Madame Pele had a difficult time finding a home where she and her family could be safe-so she made her own and continues to build the land through which her family can thrive with each eruption. Madame Pele creates the flow which others eventually learn to either get in line and respect or get out the way (no one wants to provoke a volcano Goddess). The question is do you judge your flow or do you embrace it?


Resurrection: The Never Ending Cycle of Life


Greetings beloveds,

I hope that you are blessed and filled with peace. We are starting another portion of our journey this week. There is a calling to clear and integrate with that who we are. All of who we are. Do you run from the difficult portions of your life? Drama, anger, hunger, lack, fear, all the feelings – all the things that hold us back. You can let it fester or you can let it empower you.

Now this might sound just like pretty words but words without action are without power. They are but lovely sounds which COULD change your life but may not. So we put action with words. As such, to practice what I preach I am starting a 1 day, 1 week, 1 month, 3 month, and 6 month ritual practice. Then in 2019 I will move to go through the 1 year practice.

I will share recipes, nutrition, diet, and exercise information to you all as I move through this time. There is so much for us to learn so let us learn it together.

I’ll be starting the three day ritual on Friday, February 9th. See you then.


Day 7: Soul Love

Greetings beloveds,

It’s the final day of week one in our 28 Days of Love. This week we focused on connecting to our hearts, bringing our hearts into alignment with our higher-self, and nourishing our hearts through our diets. Our hearts long for us to listen to them. To let them take the lead while it works with our spirit, mind, and body. We may speak of our souls, thoughts, beliefs, actions, and heart as if they are separate entities existing outside of each other. Yet they are always connected. Always acting in coordination with each other even when we find ourselves in dangerous or painful situations. Our souls are love. When we are disconnected from our true state of being, we believe in scarcity, separation, division, and lack. We are not these things. We are not bound by the rules of society, the government, or religious bodies. We our bound only by what we can imagine. So now I ask you to dream. To use these exercises from the past week to consciously connect your heart and soul.

We will soon cover the importance of shifting our thoughts towards love, moving our bodies in in ways that connect with our heart, and creating sacred space. Open yourself up to the possibilities of what your life could be. These 28 Days are just the beginning to a lifetime of Love.